Do you remember the days when we would take those silly tests about what celebrity type we should marry in the future? Or the type of fruit that best describes us? I’ll admit that those were fun but silly times. Despite it being silly, we can all agree that we all want to have a better understanding of ourselves. One way of doing that is through the Myers-Briggs Type Indicatory (MBTI) which has gained a lot of popularity through the years. I’ve taken the test multiple times in a span of a few years and always had INFJ as my result.
If you haven’t heard about the Myer-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) also known as the 16 personalities test, it’s essentially a test that would help you understand yourself. It categorizes people into 16 personality types and gives detailed descriptions of each one. The difference between this and the fruit test is that there is research behind all the claims. However, it’s important to remember that these are rough guidelines as opposed to definite labelling. There will always be something you can disagree with.
With that being said, here are a couple of things I can resonate with as a repeatedly labelled INFJ.
INFJ’s are said to be principled and passionate. We have strong beliefs and values that stick to our core and hardly ever budge. This can definitely be viewed as a blessing and anchor amidst pressured social situations. It has saved me a lot of trouble and shielded me from venturing into harmful situations. My desire and keen eye for authenticity shielded me from the wrong friendships and have kept me grounded for many years. The practice of being authentic with myself has also been a great way for me to be honest with the people around me.
On the flip side, my principles lead to a lot of stubbornness. I knew what I wanted, what made me happy and what didn’t work for me. I knew the type of people I wanted to talk to and created a subconscious filter that made my decision process a lot easier. Adapting to the habits and ways of my culture wasn’t easy because I had already grounded myself in my own principles and values. Rather than being open and trying new things, I tied myself down because I wanted to be true to who I was.
It is both a blessing and a curse. An escape and a trap. But there is always hope for us INFJ’s. Learning and growing will always be one of the greatest things we can do for ourselves.
It’s not that we have trust issues. We’re not that messed up. It’s just that it takes time to reveal who we truly are to the right people. It can take YEARS! Even then, there are still layers to ourselves that will never be revealed.
My best friend and I have known each other for about five years. It’s safe to say that she knows a lot about me compared to most people. However, I know that I’ve only shown her 50-60% of who I am. It’s not that I don’t trust her. I trust her with my life and simply don’t feel like letting her know other sides of me until the right opportunity arises. I have the time to wait. There’s no rush.
Most people think that I am outgoing, friendly and easy to talk to. They don’t think of me like a closed book. That’s because I can talk to them when it comes to personal matters or topics that I am interested in. They can open up to me as much as they like. We can appear to be very close. But if they take the time to recall our conversations, they’ll realize that I haven’t contributed much about myself and my deeply personal thoughts.
INFJs look for safe spaces to reveal their inner thoughts. It takes time and it won’t happen right away. So if you’re looking to befriend one, you’ll need a lot of patience and understanding.
I am the type of person who loves to spend time alone. I recharge and get energized when I have a space where I can hear my own thoughts. However, I’ll completely lose it if I don’t have some type of social interaction within a couple of days.
I crave interactions with other personalities because I long for different perspectives and points of view that can stimulate my brain. I want to be with carefree spirits, funny people and basically the opposite personality types. To put it simply, my own company can either bore or recharge me.
This paradox can drive us crazy, confused and frustrated all at the same time. It’s like your body doesn’t know what it wants. It can get annoying but I’ve learned to balance my needs in a way where I can cope. By correct scheduling, there’s a way to enjoy both worlds.
I love being an INFJ! After all, it is the rarest personality type.
Despite some setbacks that I am prone to have, I am genuinely grateful to be the way I am. Every strength and weakness is mine to use and develop! So take the time to use the endless opportunities out there to hone the skillsets that you have 🙂